About Sam

What Most Therapists Don’t See

Most therapists treat intimacy as one area among many others. Something to “work on” between career and personal growth.

But here is what a decade of navigating complex relationships taught me:

Intimacy is not a part of your life. It is a MIRROR of everything.

What shows itself in your intimate moments appears everywhere. That voice that says “I’m not allowed to do this”? It also whispers in your work, in your friendships, in how you look at yourself.

Fot intimacy requires what the rest of life does not require – it requires you to be FULLY in your body. Vulnerable. Without masks.

For this reason, working in this area creates transformation that touches everything. 💫

The Journey That Prepared Me

My real life began in 2012 when I said goodbye to what everyone saw as perfect: the house, the marriage, the respectable academic career. From the outside, everything seemed ideal. Inside, I was dying.

That choice to honor my body’s wisdom over society’s script opened a decade of exploration that would eventually bring me here – to guiding others through areas of intimate transformation that conventional approaches can never achieve.

I embraced polyamory in 2016 to be able to support my partner when she discovered that her body and soul were not made to conform to the expectations of our society. And to be able to fully live out my own sexuality.

That journey – from letting go of “shoulds” to embracing what is TRUE – taught me things that no training can give. I discovered what happens when you can no longer hide behind masks. When every relationship requires you to fully show up with both your best and ugliest sides, communicate your truth, feel your body’s yes and no with absolute clarity.

This was love. This was courage. And it taught me to see what others were missing.

Why My Perspective Is Different

As a member of sexual and relationship minorities, I have never really fit into conventional boxes. Exactly that became my greatest gift in this work – I understand from the inside how it feels when mainstream narratives about intimacy and relationships don’t fit who you are.

In 2019, I found tantra, trained intensively with Dr. Jonathan Beger and other recognized European masters in somatic therapy, conscious intimacy and de-armouring. These trainings gave me tools. My lived experience gave me the ability to FEEL what someone needs.

Shibari first called me in 2015, but it wasn’t until 2022 that I discovered what rope could really do. Some bodies cannot relax for conventional body therapy – the protection is too strong. But tied down, safely secured in a web of tension and support, the rope creates a space where the body finally releases what the head never could.

EveryBODY is welcome to Studio ES. Not as a slogan, but as a lived truth. Every body, every identity, every form of love.

But not everyone is ready. This work requires a willingness to feel, to take off masks, to let your body speak. That willingness – not perfection, not already having the answer – that’s what counts.

What I Bring Along To This Work

This is what years of lived experience and intensive training allow me to see:

I recognize the patterns within patterns. That critical inner voice during intimacy? It’s the same voice that keeps you small at work. The difficulty with receiving pleasure? It appears as difficulty receiving compliments, help or success.

I know when distance is the problem, not the solution. Sometimes you need more than insight and understanding. You need new experiences that give your body a different reference point. Working with imprinting means that I am constantly checking: Is this what YOU need, or what my preferences suggest? This responsibility is sacred.

I fully trust the wisdom of the body. Your body knows what your head has forgotten. It knows what has happened, what you need, and what is ready to shift. My role is to create the safety for that wisdom to emerge and be honored.

Because of this, my work transforms everything, not just intimacy. A woman came to me because in the bedroom she was always saying “yes” while her body was screaming “no.” We weren’t working on her relationship. We were working on HOW the “no” felt in her body. How it sounded out loud. How she stayed straight while saying it. Three weeks later, she called. “I told my boss that I was no longer tackling that extra project. For the first time in my career. I felt the same thing in my gut as I did in our sessions – and this time I could say it.

Because intimacy is not separate from life. It is the core of it. ✨

For Whom This Work Is Intended

Perhaps you are the woman who has achieved external success but knows there is a completely different level of intimate aliveness. Or you have tried therapy and found it helpful for insight but not for transformation.

Maybe you navigate relationship structures that mainstream support doesn’t understand. Or you don’t feel at home in conventional intimacy work because you don’t fit into the standard narratives about how love and sexuality are “supposed” to be.

What unites people here is willingness. Not perfection. Not having the answer already. Just the courage to feel, to be vulnerable, to let your body speak.

Your Next Step

This work requires something of you that most services do not: a genuine willingness to explore the depths. Not everyone feels called to this path, and that’s as it should be.

If something resonates here – if you feel I may understand areas you have navigated on your own – I invite you to an Alignment Conversation.

This is not a sales pitch. It is a mutual exploration where together we will discover if this exclusive work calls to you, and if you are ready for what it offers.

The 20 minutes that can change your life.

Where Intimacy Becomes Art
Studio ES, Ghent